Is there any calculus as tricky as deciding when to start a family? Waiting any amount of time may seem selfish, especially to your overbearing Great Aunt Mildred, but parenting is not a decision to be made according to anyone else’s schedule. Ultimately, it may come down to timing that just feels right to you and your partner. Even then, there is so much uncertainty in the best laid plans.
When my husband and I tied the knot in 2013, we planned to enjoy married life for a few years before adding kids. After I qualified for the 2016 Olympic Marathon Trials — a dream years in the making — it made sense to us to wait until after the Trials to have children. Still, I didn’t like to admit running produced the timeline; I felt guilty that my hobby dictated family planning. When people asked, I usually deferred to wanting to be “just married” for a while rather than admitting running had anything to do with it.